Is monogamy boring?
Oceana: “Not at all. I feel that monogamy can be exciting & totally HOT. You have to put in an effort though. Especially, when you are in a long-term relationship, if you don’t make an endeavor to add life in your love-making with your partner, it can become routine and even another job to be done.
I would highly recommend that each time you make love you do something different. Just a small thing can make your love-making sparkle and come alive.
Some simple ideas might be:
Have a shower together first
Exchange massages [eg 20mins each]
Caress each other faces
Tell each other 3 things you appreciate about each other
Put some music you both enjoy and have a sexy dance together
Light some candles
Feed each other a special fruit plate
Exchange foot massages
Breath into each other’s hearts
This list can go on and on however the important thing is to have some fun and be light-hearted.
Take turns at bringing in a new idea and be open and receptive to your partner.
If you are 100% committed to your partner and have perhaps chosen marriage as an outward sign of your commitment, you really have a vested interest in keeping your sex life happening and thoroughly satisfying for both of you.
Focus on the love in your heart. Be present totally with EACH love-making experience. Be sensitive to your partner’s feelings. Taking care of each individual love-making time will create the opportunity for you to experience a lifetime of passionate love-making with your partner. Give your full attention on creating the space to gently grow together with an abundance of love, trust and respect for each other.”